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Self Help: The Art of Compassion

Procrastination is often called the silent killer of our hopes and dreams.

I agree that procrastination is deadly. However, it is easier to defeat than you may think.

When most people procrastinate, they chastise themselves for being undisciplined or plain lazy. They pressure themselves for action before resolving the emotional conflict within.

When mentally tough people procrastinate, they do not self-criticize. Instead, they listen to what the procrastination is telling them. They understand that their resistance has a rational source.

Maggie: Overcoming Writer's Block

An intelligent young graduate student name Maggie attended my seminar with the goal of finishing her thesis, which was due in 32 days.

Maggie had been procrastinating for weeks and assumed her problem was lack of discipline. She kept making up writing schedules and trying to adhere to them, which motivated her for a day or two at most.

Eventually, she fell into a mild depression, which led to her to watch T.V. more often than write.

I asked Maggie to close her eyes and imagine writing her thesis. After a few moments she reported feeling 'uncomfortable.'

I said, 'Bring a sharper observer to the feeling. What is it?'

She replied, 'Inadequacy. My topic is too broad in scope. Based on my research, it cannot be adequately covered in one thesis. Even my supervisor agrees it's extremely broad.'

Maggie opened her eyes and smiled. She had finally touched the source of her helplessness and procrastination: uneasiness about her topic.

The very next day, Maggie scheduled a meeting with her supervisor to discuss a narrower scope for her thesis.

Self Help: Mental Toughness Lesson

Often when you procrastinate, it's because the task you're avoiding makes you feel inadequate or helpless. This is the very definition of stress: your challenge exceeds your resources.

The key of this self help exercise is to pinpoint why you feel helpless, and then develop yourself so you have sufficient resources to master the challenge.

Here are some basic questions you can pose when procrastination strikes:

• Is there knowledge or skill you need to acquire?
• Would planning or negotiating help?
• Do you need more resources (time, money, people)? If so, what conversations do you need to have to get them?

If you answer these questions with ruthless honesty, you will know immediately how to defeat your procrastination.

In my newly revised online course, Catapult Yourself to Success Using Mental Toughness, I explain many many self help strategies for handling complex relationship situations including:

• How to establish love and respect with people in your life
• How to stop someone from rejecting you, including divorce
• How to move people to action at work
• What to say when you're under the fire of criticism
• How to neutralize the office bully
• How to handle moody people, including long-standing relatives
• How to deliver an effective reprimand

This self help training also reveals:

• The little known truth about negative emotions
• The mystery behind procrastination and de-motivation and how to infuse unceasing energy into your life
• How to remove self-created suffering from your life (even the Dahlai Lama agrees)
• An Olympic gold medalist's method for programming himself for success and confidence
• Why positive thinking is overrated and how you can move through inner barriers of fear

I'd love to see you in my training.

For a complete description of the course curriculum, go to:

http://www.lisabrown.ca/catapult_course.html

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your friend,
Lisa B.