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Self Help: How to Conquer Fear (part 3)

Creating confidence when you have learned helplessness means developing optimism with respect to your goal.

Optimism is the art of finding hope. Top performers are very skilled at finding hope in bleak circumstances. You find hope by finding legitimate reasons to convince yourself that whatever problem you are facing is temporary. 

A Simple Example

Let's imagine you make a mistake and lose an important client. If you use optimism, you'll find a genuine reason why the negative event is temporary. You might say, "I'm going to discover why he left and fix the problem so I don't lose any more clients."

Optimism is not positive thinking. Positive thinking is trying to find a benefit in the setback. If you use positive thinking, you'll try to find an advantage in the situation. You might say, "I'm glad he left because I didn't have time to deal with my full client load anyway." 

Positive thinking is an excellent self-help strategy for improving your mood. The problem with it is that a) sometimes you're faced with a negative situation that really does not have any advantages and b) it does not give you hope that the obstacle you are facing is surmountable. 

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your friend,
Lisa Brown

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